How to Get A Date Worth Keeping

 The new Henry Cloud book has helped my personal perception on dating.   It has changed my overall perspective on dating in general.   It has reminded me how I do not need to rush dating and marriage.   Marriage will happen for me in God's timing and his purposes.    In our culture, we always want to rush everything.    In my parent's traditional culture, you find someone early in life and you settle down with that person.  

I like how he makes the analogy of Tiger Woods rushes straight to the U.S. open but he does not do the other tournaments.   If we do not date other people and explore, then we are rushing to the end.   Cloud talks to a woman in the book who wants to rush finding a husband.   She tells Henry that she cannot wait for finding a husband.  We cannot rush future marriage.   Cloud helps us see if we rush marriage, we won't be able to get to know ourselves in dating.  

HOD Conference 2-

 Other things God showed me through the HOD conference: making a relationship decision based on fate over faith.   Not trusting God in faith over my relationships.    We need to break up with the lie of failure in relationships.   It's important to not let one bad/failed relationship pull us down.   Do not quit on relationships but just God's timing for our life.  

HOD conference

 The HOD conference has reminded the importance of finding our identity in Christ and not dating/marriage.   It has reminded me to keep myself rooted in Christ.   We cannot look to the person of the opposite sex to fill our needs.    As singles, we have to be healthy before we can truly date and be molded to the person God has called us to marry.   It's important to be whole and healthy before marrying.  At times, we try to meet the opposite sex's needs and fix them in relationships.     

Healing from Rejection and Abandonment

 God has been showing me from Kait's book how important it is to heal from rejection and abandonment.  Jesus has told me that he need to heal from these things in my life so I can be whole in a relationship.  Debra Fileta says, "Healthy people attract healthy people in relationships."   What I learned in these chapters is that we need to remind ourselves constantly that God's love never fails us.   When other people reject us, God's love and passion for us never fail us.